HOPE

Hope is wonder that gives us the strength to be the most successful person. If we Hope for good then we will be the best for all human kind. My dear friends, Hope and never become hopeless but make your hope your dream and be the most valued person on this Earth. Thank you

Lessons to all LOVERS

It hurts to love someone and not to be loved in return. But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. May be god wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that, when we finally meet the right person. We will know how to be grateful for that gift. Love is when you take away the feeling the passion of romance in a relationship, and find out you still care for that person. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be, and you just have to let go. When door of happiness closes, another opens but often times you look so longer to the closed door, that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us. The best kind of friend is the kind you can just be with and never say a word and then walk away feeling, like it was the best conversation you never had. It is true that we don’t know what we have got until we lose it. But it is also true that we don’t know what we have been missing, until it arrives. Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they love you back. Doesn’t aspect love in return, just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn’t, be content it grew in yours. There are things you love to hear that you would never hear from the person whom you like to hear them from, but don’t be so deaf as not to hear it from the one who says it from their heart. Never say goodbye, if you still want to try. Never give up, if you still feel you can go on. Never say you don’t love a person anymore, if you can’t let go. Love comes to those who still hope, although they have been disappointed. To those who still believe, although they have been betrayed. To those who still need to love, although they have been hurt before. To those who have a courage and fate to build trust again. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes lifetime to forget someone. Don’t go for looks, they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make dark days in bright. Hope you find someone makes you smile. ----------------------------------------------He who love to write has written it--------------------------------------------------

cont.....FIRST SIGHT LOVE! … Till Second is found: Friendship

Go ahead and tell the truth, but truth has to be accepted. Do remember that there is just little space for truth to be accepted. I do understand how it feels when everything is not right, And when it is not accepted by any man… It is true that we fall in love again and again but friendship happens with special people. Yes, it is factual, world may go up and down but never with the friends and the deed of friendship will remain in the heart of true friends. It is really amusing to be friend with girls. Man can lead the life without shelter and money but not without woman. Shit! Every man says it but he does not mean it. Likely, I am also a man, who thinks and say it, but it does not mean that everything is reliable. Everything happens for good, we have to accept it, and thus I did so. I was in love but who knows that I am. And if it happened to be known to anyone who cares the damn shit. So, I acted cool. That coolness was really notable. She was always with me. We walked, ate, and enjoyed every moment together. The process of the togetherness had deepened my feelings to her; not as friend but as sex partner. I am sure! All the guys are like me, who just take the love for granted, hey! but not friendship; it is really something more than love. A month had been passed. Karma and I became the good friend. Of course my intension was other way round but it didn’t work, so I had not given intimation about my feelings. But in name of friendship I did everything to make her feel in heaven when she was with me. “Let’s have some fun” I just spit it out. God damn! Why you always try too hard to be a man? I just thought with slight smile. It is better to be than to act. “What do you mean by that?” she said in a confused look. Damn it! Woman will never understand the language of man. “I mean let’s go to canteen” I said with gigantic smile. But it was not the fact of what I mean. Now canteen was only place where we can have open fun. I mean without hiding or without fear of any witnesses. She was really cool and good friend, we became more open and shared everything accepts some feelings. Think! Everyone will agree that everyone has secret in their heart. Those secrets were never shared to anyone, even to closed bed partners. After becoming friend with woman, I just knew one thing that woman can never be understood by any man. They are impossible to understand. But as friend, they are the best! We were having tea at the canteen. At that moment, something pop up in my mind and I said, “Do you know, love happens again and again but friendship happens just once”. The thought has never been rejected on the due consideration of any feelings and with soul of lover. Indeed, it has been accepted with due and humble respect. There are thousand and one thoughts claiming what will be her responses. I tried my best not to sound like philosopher, knowing that the term and the person who act as philosopher is not liked by any human in the society of young generation. (cont...)

FIRST SIGHT LOVE! … Till Second is found

It is impressive. It is impressive, I kept on thinking. More I think more it became unpredictable feelings in the heart. Love has wonderful feelings until we get our lover but after getting it is just the win lose game. I was kept wandering by the thoughts of after and before love. Yes, after getting what we need, we turn our head around and say “I am satisfied now.” She was beautiful and sexy but short. I think her height may be five feet tall. But her butt was bigger than her size. She was popularly known as Karma in the college. I was really impressed by the way she takes the things. Because she gives no damn shit to anything. She entered the class room; it seems that she was nervous. She was searching for the chair to sit, at that moment I thought it is damn perfect chance to talk. “Why don’t you sit on this chair?” I said with the most wonderful smile ever. Thought linger in me and it took me to the garden of goddess. Everything was utterly beautified with thousands of thoughts. I looked around and saw that everyone was staring at me, but who gives the damn care. With very soft and in the tone of nightingale she said, “thank you” and then she sat beside me. I thought what a heavenly day. She was really beautiful, just like the true form of goddess came on the earth. “I am Pema” I said in the manly tone, expecting that she would say hers and feeling very proud of my name. Everyone feel conceited when they say their name, so do I. ‘Nice to meet you’ she said and added ‘I am Karma’. Wow, it was really considerable and matching and kept on thinking about what to ask next, but could not come up with any questions or issues. I suppose that she had expensive perfume. She was wearing woven kira (long skirt) with beautiful pattern with silken pink wonju (inner shirt) and taego(outer shirt). Her smooth and silky hair had shortened up to the shoulder. I wander from where the heavenly angel came, and took my heart at first sight. She smiled to me and did the same. I am sure she must have noticed my feeling when she smiled. I was really lost with the vanished smile. I was exceedingly enjoying her perfume and the structure that made her a being of god. I am actually just average in looks and five feet ten frame, but always look for more wonderful and beautiful things. I am person whom girl may not like to mingle with, yet can be considered as good friend indeed. Frankly speaking, I am not really good at commending on looks and figures but I had to because she was exceptionally interesting being. Of course, I am always impressed by the personality of different men and women. She was more than what I can expect in the perfect women. Hey do not judge the books by its cover, I said to myself with inner voice. Without any words I started reading that I could not completed the night before. I opened the novel; Of course I love you… Till I find someone better. She turned to me and said, “The book that you are reading is really interesting and fantastic.” Then I without waiting for second chance, said, “You must be very good reader and I think you must have read numbers of good novels particularly on LOVE.” She laughed… I was confused but inside I was very happy as I got another way to talk and chat with her. I felt warmth in my little unchained heart. Hearty feelings of joy had erupted with thousands of desire to hug, kiss and feel her lovingness. When I was enjoying my dreamy world, the teacher entered the class shouting, “Ladies and Gentlemen, settle down.” As Mr Sonam entered the learning room with files and papers grapping in his hand, I said, “What the hell” in low tone, even karma had not heard my words. Mr Sonam started his lesson on the role of manager. When he continued with his teaching, I was lost in the thoughts of lovers’ world. And could not catch up any lessons, if I were asked questions I must have thrown out of the class. But I was lucky, I was not asked any. I had dated a few girls all were impressive, this time I had very remarkable girl. I was just thinking about Karma. I was sure that if I ask her for dinar at first meet then she would be angry. So, thought to be a good person. Then I said, “Do let me know if you need any help.” I was expecting something that would hold my breath and make me feel that I was still alive being. Before any answer I interrupted saying, “I just said you might need some help in getting information when you missed it…” I thought it is not very logic to say everything at first meet. And it is not advised to talk too much, if you need other to recognize you. So, I kept quit till she said, “It is really nice of you that you try to give me help, thanks I will do that.” Then I gave fake smile with some specialty in it. Never mind it is something that was there in the world of human. In the reality everything were indeed fake and magic, nothing can be stated as truth or believable but we do because we were blinded by the illusion of false. But my idea was to ask her for dinar, yes it did not work. The class was over; everyone went out of the class room. Only two of us were there in the class. “Karma” I called for “Yes” she told “Do you want to go out? It is cold here.” I proclaim “Ok” she agreed We went out of the class and I took her where there was good view of college. I was really carried away by her company, so my intension was to walk with her, accompanying her. And make her feel at home when she is with me. What am I doing? Is it not foolish to walk with unknown? I thought but I smiled to self and argued that it is the reality of living, do something foolish so that person that you like can be happy when she is with you. It is better to be fool and liked by others. In truth, it is just a strategy to make the girl happy and take her heart. I knew that I acted cheap in the eyes of the girl. Indeed reality was something that was not known to anyone, not even to my best friend. I knew that I am good liar, but who in the damn world knew that I am lying. Damn all the beings were same; only think about themselves, so am I. (Cont...)

beauty is not yet bloomed

The thing called beauty is not yet bloomed in the heart of man The man has no true heart to be a true lover; It makes the world seem hard to live It draws the wonder of earth in vain. Men just think to realize the truth of love Wandering from heart to heart, from soul to soul But still hard to fine the true love. Wandering, why it seems high Wandering, why it seems hard Wandering, why it seems unbelievable The thing called beauty is not yet bloomed in the heart of man. It makes wonder crazy It makes beauty insane Which is why, every man is in search of true love? When it is there in man’s heart and soul. Soul by soul Heart by heart Just making to believe What love mean, is true to all man.

The great soul, Mahatma Gandhi

The following article that you will be going through is speech that I delivered on the non-violence day and birthday of Gandhiji. Ladies and Gentlemen: I will talk bit about the great soul, Mahatma Gandhi: I shall not know anything about him, and of the arrangements of my thought that have made them possible, if I were not student who learnt world history. But I am not here to narrate life story and his work, but I am here to share my own view about the great soul Gandhiji. It is really amusing to know that all the men seek freedom, peace and happiness but only few try to get by themselves and try to give to others too. Today(2nd October,2012) is the great day not to India, nor to Bhutan but to all the nations on the earth. Today is 143rd anniversary of Mahatma Gandhi’s birth and also, it would be not wrong, to say that today is birthday of India as true independent nation. In the orchard of the Indian shrine and in the shadow of the fortress of India, I have seen the freest amongst us who wear true garment of freedom; that free amongst us is the true man of true world and only true child of the earth the great Mahatma Gandhi. The great Mahatma Gandhi was a true beauty of universe; as beauty is kind and gentle, might and dread, as beauty speaks in our spirit, so is great Mahatma Gandhi. His deeds rise with the dawn from the east and never fail to raise it again. He was the man, who trust his dream because he knew for in dream is hidden the gate to eternity. He was the man, for we can come to him with our hunger, and seek him for our peace. In his sweetness of friendship, we can laugh and sing our happiness out. We are aware that there are those who give little of the much which they have, and they give it for fame, recognition and to fulfill their hidden desire. And there are those who have little and give it all. Those are the believer in life and bounty life, and their coffer is never empty. So was the great Mahatma Gandhi, the true believer of bounty life and he was never alone. He gives with joy and receives with joy, and so was his living. The great soul, Gandhi did not believe in enemies; he worked on the principle that solutions emerged only from collaboration. Gandhi also believed in simplicity. He believed that anyone who was in public service should also lead a life of simplicity. And he believed that through his advocacy of nonviolence he would win freedom. So he said, "I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent." Lastly I quote; "When I despair, I remember that all through history the ways of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants, and murderers, and for a time they can seem invincible, but in the end they always fall. Think of it – always."

The Impact of Television on Bhutanese Youth: A Case of Gedu College and High School

The ideas that all of you will be going through focuses on the impact of Television on the youths of Gedu College and School, all the ideas and findings are not just through secondary data like articles, journals, and etc. but we gave the conclusion based on primary data that we have collected directly using Questionnaires, observation and interview. It is great opportunity to know how television as part of the modernization has affected the youths. There are many systems of modernization that have good and bad effects to the youths of all the nations on the earth. One of the popular issues this days are youth issues, i.e the youth are changing or adopting cultures and tradition which doesn’t belong to them but after the introduction of television this problem has prolonged all the way. Most of the nations are now trying to find out the ways to keep or sustain media as part of their development process. Some say that television gives basic knowledge and make them understand the world better, but some are against it. There are many articles and thesis on Television and Youths stating both positive and negative effects. This project presents the results of a study designed to test the effects and impact of television on the Bhutanese youth. Unlike previous studies, however, the impacts of such media on youth are evaluated in the context of culture and traditions. Specifically, the research examines the effects of television and its impact on youth on their behavior in terms of style and behavior. We have mainly focused on the students of Gaeddu College as well as Gedu School. The polarization debate on Impact of Television on Bhutanese Youth seems to have been inevitable. Most of the Bhutanese people love watching television and majority of them are willing to adopt the styles of other countries since they are fascinated by that. For instant the way the youth maintain their hair style and if we really observe them, we will find around hundreds of styles which is not brought in here. The direction, in which TVs are moving today, has generated enormous tension to which we have not been able to find appropriate solutions. The problem is very prompt and it has been established that the content of TVs is damaging for not only culture but society and morality as well. Although some substantial research has been done on the negative consequences of TVs across the world, the behavioral consequences and distortion of values caused by exposure to them is yet an unexplored area. Surprisingly this days Television is accelerating the adoption of new ideas and is extending into rural areas this seldom brings positive benefit to the country as well. Empirical studies conducted all over the world show that media content like television can and does influence people’s beliefs, attitudes and behavior. As par the study done by Department of Information and Media, Ministry of Information and Communication, Royal Government of Bhutan it is revealed that mass communication in Bhutan could be replacing other “socialization agents” like as parents, temples and schools. At no time in Bhutan’s history have television been such a strong force than they are now as the entertainer and news media reach more Bhutanese than ever before. These developments have come about as a result of the rapidly changing socio-economic and political situation in Bhutan. The coming of democracy has mandated an open media as a vital part of Bhutan’s transition. Television is the most powerful influence on a previously closed society. It has spurred the process of globalization (Bhutan, Media Impact Study 2008). Surprisingly Television is accelerating the adoption of new ideas and is extending into rural areas. For the first time, a generation of Bhutanese children is growing up with the Television in the home. Kezang and Whalley (2008) states, the television is a prime element in the concept of culture, one of the pillars of Gross National Happiness. The television is considered as a strong influence on culture as well as the television is an important element of Bhutanese culture. In both ways, the television is shaping Bhutanese culture. The debate on whether television diversifies the culture is a valid concern in Bhutan. In the early years of television, content was focused on information and education and was appreciated at the time. Today, we have so many channels and so many newspapers and still people feel that is not enough. Access to TV has improved tremendously and has now penetrated rural areas with the Government establishing power connections to 15,000 rural households in the final years of the Ninth Five-Year Development Plan (2005-2007) in a country of about 125,000 households (Bhutan, Media Impact Study 2008). The view given by Phuntsho (2007), Bhutan’s Buddhist spirituality and the television culture appear to be disparate, however, in the world which is inundated and influenced by the television and in which interdependencies between the television and other social systems are forged inextricably, a complete abnegation of the television culture is not even possible. The reliance of religious systems on the television is inevitable for its survival in the large society. Moreover, the ubiquity and intensity of the television have turned religious systems into the most powerful social phenomena. There is some thinker like Gev (2011), who cites that television has been a great asset of mankind since its first advent. People of all ages’ weather, child or old are interested in watching television. Television has eventually developed into a means of entertainment and resource centre. As every other thing, television too, though very useful, has got negative aspects as well. So, it’s necessary for all the elders to make right choices regarding what they and their younger watch. The person who always spent his or her time watching television is popularly known as ‘Couch Potato’ and the person who always watch television are prone to many health problems. Many research’s world-wide have also shown that people who spend comparatively more time on television have greater chance of getting heart diseases, eye problems, they become overweight and have muscle problems. It is found that young youths of different ages watch and understand television in different ways, depending on the length of their attention spans, the ways in which they process information, the amount of mental effort they invest, and their own life experiences. These variables must all be examined to gain an understanding of how television violence youths. Youth are much more likely to doubt the reality of television content and much less likely to identify with television characters. The small percentages of those who continue to believe in the reality of television and to identify with its violent heroes are the ones likely to be more aggressive, especially if they continue to fantasize about aggressive-heroic themes (Josephson, 1995). Commenting on the study, Winston (2002) told that Television is a very powerful influence on youths on everything from what they should be eating to how they should behave. According to the report in the September issue of Archives of Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine the youths watch about 2.5 hours of television each day, on average and their viewing time increases during the weekend. And it is reported that the more television a youths watched, the more likely they were to demonstrate social problems and aberrant and aggressive behavior. However a more recent article by Ferguson et. al. (2007) cautioned that the literature on television and body dissatisfaction is weaker and less consistent than often claimed and that television effects have been overemphasized. Similarly recent work by Steinbrerg (2008) and Monahan (2008) has found that, using propensity score matching to control for other variables, television viewing of sexual media had no impact on teen sexual behavior in a longitudinal analysis. The recent research, conducted by Robinson (2006) and Martin (2006) from the University of Maryland, people who are not satisfied with their lives spend 30% more time watching TV than satisfied people do. The research was conducted with 30,000 people during the period between 1975 and 2006. This new study slightly contradicted previous research, which concluded that watching TV was the happiest time of the day for some people. However, Robinson (2007) commented that watching TV could bring short-time happiness, which would be just a result of an overall dissatisfaction. 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